Something for the boys

Now here's something naman for the brothers. Don't want to be in the Friend Zone? Here are some tips:

LIGAW KIT FOR SFC BROTHERS

Basic Checklist of Courtship for SFC Brothers

You are ready to court a sister if:

• God is your no. 1 priority
• You love your family dearly
• You are emotionally healthy/ready to get hurt
• You are financially healthy /will be able to provide
• You are a servant
• You are committed
• You are willing to guard your and the sister's heart as you discern your future together in this courtship stage. 
• You will keep this relationship pure and pleasing to God at all cost.
• You are willing to sacrifice your own interests and comforts for the sake of another.

In discerning for a sister:

• Be careful with your actions and words especially when you are not sure yet. Do not mislead the sister.
• Why this person? What are your motives in pursuing her?
• Do you know her well enough as a sister, friend, and co-worker in God's vineyard?
• What do you like about her? Are these what God wants you to look for in a future partner?
• Am I ready to discern this person to be my future spouse? Do I see this person as someone who can possibly be my partner in building a Christian family?

In courting a sister:

• Discern for God's time for you to enter a relationship
• It goes with your packaging. If she's beautiful in your eyes, be handsome in her eyes.
• Let the sister know that you are pursuing her, how you feel and what your intentions are. No mind games.
• Court your future wife, not just your future girlfriend.
• Respect the privacy and purity of the sister.
• Court in the sister's home, not in streets.
• It is not in the amount of the gifts, it is in the presentation.
• Be consistent in courtship, don't give false hope to the sister.
• Reveal yourself to her, so she'll love the real you.
• Allow the sister to entertain other brothers if she doesn't have a commitment with you yet. Be a sport.
• Don't expect anything in return. Just be happy that she's allowing you to court her. Just love her anyway.
• Get guidance from someone who has moral authority.

If she's a gift from God

• She must be something special.
• You don't have to force God, He will freely give her to you in time.
• Pursue her. Others might get her, or she'll just slip away.