Something for the boys

Now here's something naman for the brothers. Don't want to be in the Friend Zone? Here are some tips:

LIGAW KIT FOR SFC BROTHERS

Basic Checklist of Courtship for SFC Brothers

You are ready to court a sister if:

• God is your no. 1 priority
• You love your family dearly
• You are emotionally healthy/ready to get hurt
• You are financially healthy /will be able to provide
• You are a servant
• You are committed
• You are willing to guard your and the sister's heart as you discern your future together in this courtship stage. 
• You will keep this relationship pure and pleasing to God at all cost.
• You are willing to sacrifice your own interests and comforts for the sake of another.

In discerning for a sister:

• Be careful with your actions and words especially when you are not sure yet. Do not mislead the sister.
• Why this person? What are your motives in pursuing her?
• Do you know her well enough as a sister, friend, and co-worker in God's vineyard?
• What do you like about her? Are these what God wants you to look for in a future partner?
• Am I ready to discern this person to be my future spouse? Do I see this person as someone who can possibly be my partner in building a Christian family?

In courting a sister:

• Discern for God's time for you to enter a relationship
• It goes with your packaging. If she's beautiful in your eyes, be handsome in her eyes.
• Let the sister know that you are pursuing her, how you feel and what your intentions are. No mind games.
• Court your future wife, not just your future girlfriend.
• Respect the privacy and purity of the sister.
• Court in the sister's home, not in streets.
• It is not in the amount of the gifts, it is in the presentation.
• Be consistent in courtship, don't give false hope to the sister.
• Reveal yourself to her, so she'll love the real you.
• Allow the sister to entertain other brothers if she doesn't have a commitment with you yet. Be a sport.
• Don't expect anything in return. Just be happy that she's allowing you to court her. Just love her anyway.
• Get guidance from someone who has moral authority.

If she's a gift from God

• She must be something special.
• You don't have to force God, He will freely give her to you in time.
• Pursue her. Others might get her, or she'll just slip away.

Ligaw Kit for Sisters

I got this almost exactly 2 years ago, September 4, 2010, during the SFC Regional Conference in Rizal province. This actually just came right on time when I needed it. It was when I was actually discerning for Lloyd (yeeeees nemen! :p) and this has really helped me pray for him and for my heart. Well, where did this take us now? :p 

Something really worth sharing.

LIGAW KIT FOR SISTERS
Basic Checklist during Courtship for SFC Sisters


You are ready to allow a brother to court you if:

• God is your no. 1 priority
• You love your family dearly
• You are emotionally healthy/can be honest with your brother/suitor/ready to get hurt
• You are financially healthy/good steward of resources
• You are a servant
• You are committed
• You are a winner
• You are willing to guard your and the brother's heart as you discern your future together in this courtship stage
• You will keep this relationship pure and pleasing to God at all cost.
• You are willing to sacrifice your own interests and comforts for the sake of another.

In discerning for a suitor:

• If you are confused whether a brother is courting you or not, ask. Unless the brother states his intentions, do not assume. Ask what his intentions are. If he can't say, then don't entertain him as a suitor.
• Why this person? What are my motives in considering him?
• Do I know him well enough as a brother, friend and co-worker in God's vineyard?
• What do I like about this person? Are these what God wants me to look for in a future partner?
• Am I ready to discern this person to be my future spouse? Do I see this person as someone who can possibly be my partner in building a Christian family?

During courtship:

• Discern if the brother suitor is the one prepared by God for you. Discern if he can be your future husband, not just a boyfriend. 
• Be honest with him, tell him where he stands. Treat the brother with respect and don't ignore him. Through discernment, if he is not for you, have the courage to say no and tell him right away. Don't leave him hanging.
• Be courted at home, not in the streets.
• Be mindful in receiving gifts from the brother suitor. Don't give false expectations by accepting extravagant and extra special gifts.
• Reveal yourself to him, so he'll love the real you.
• You can still entertain other suitors if there are any as long as you've not committed to a brother suitor.
• Get guidance from someone who has moral authority.
• If you must turn him down, do so with respect and love for him as your brother.

If he's a gift from God:

• He must be someone special
• You don't have to force God, He will freely give him to you in His time.
• Allow him to pursue you. He might be the one and might slip away.

It's been almost two years, and I'm just thankful for everything that has happened since the day this kit introduced itself to me. :p